Being my daughters Venezuelans (one by birth) we keep close ties with that immensely big country.

And that’s how I got to the CEO of Google Mexico, the also Venezuelan Maria Teresa Arnal that has participated, last March in the #4womenforum.

The speaker chose the subject: “Leading a company and raising a family “.

During her presentation, María announced the seven steps for female success.

Interestingly to feel that I already practice them for so long and that they meet the teachings of one of the inspiring women of my mission – Virgínia Satir.

In her declaration of self-esteem, Satir speaks masterfully about the difference that makes the difference.

Before I share with you what are the Google steps, I just want to remember that: “success” is one of the many words that we all use and accept without questioning. They are words lacking substance.

It’s level of abstraction allows that every person gives it the meaning he/she wishes. In NLP, they are part of the linguistic patterns called “nominalisms”.

Now yes, seven steps for female success:

1 – Know  yourself

First of all, you should put aside the expectations of others about you. Establish who you are, who you want to be, what life you want to live and where you want to get to!

Always remember: you’re the only guide of your life! And, this is something we work on so much in my coaching sessions with NLP for women.

2 – Surround yourself of those who make you grow

Have you heard of toxic people? Stay away! Have nearby people that you connect with, that motivates you and, that are, themselves, responsible of successful stories

3 – Find a job that aligns with your life

You want to travel and know the world? You can see yourself through this dream? You want a quiet life that allows you to be a mother and a CEO simultaneously?

You can also see yourself through this dream? In which company would you like to work? There’s the essence of what you want to do.

4 – Build your support network

This goes from superiors to friends, family, partner, people who help you at home.

The goal is that they are people you trust and that support you at any moment, whether they ‘re happy moments or the most critical ones.

5 – Learn to prioritize

It’s important that you have time for yourself and that it reflects in your schedule. What’s the % of time you devote to your job?

What’s the % that you devote to your family? To your friends? To your hobbies? Include in the list the activities that you don’t have time for and think.

6 – No pain, no gain

Remember that sacrifice is part of the game! You must be conscious of it and of what you’re willing to do for it.

And when you make a choice that involves sacrifice, keep in mind that it will bring rewards with it.

Here I had a detail that makes all the difference: pain exists, it push us further, suffering is optional.

7 – Give more to the World

Don’t forget that is always someone you can do more for. To María Teresa Arnal is important to remember that “that is a special place in hell for the women who were horrible to other women.”

I don’t know if that is so, I just know that accordingly with my world model, I’m happy “doing well without regards”.

Probably you’re realizing you already practice several of these seven steps for female success. And how good it is.

O conteúdo Seven steps for female success aparece primeiro em Rita Aleluia.

I own my fantasies, my dreams, my hopes, my fears. I own all my triumphs and successes, all my failures and mistakes. Because I own all of me, I can become intimately acquainted with me.

By so doing I can love me and be friendly with me in all my parts.

I know there are aspects about myself that puzzle me, and other aspects that I do not know, but as long as I am friendly and loving to myself, I can courageously and hopefully look for solutions to the puzzles, and for ways to find out more about me.

However I look and sound, whatever I say and do, and whatever I think and feel at a given moment in time, is authentically me.

If later some parts of how I looked, sounded, thought and felt turn out to be unfitting, I can discard that which is unfitting, keep the rest, and invent something new for that which I discarded.

I can see, hear, feel, think, say, and do. I have the tools to survive, to be close to others, to be productive to make sense and order out of the world of people and things outside of me. I own me, and therefore I can engineer me.

I am me and… I AM OKAY.

Virgínia Satir

O conteúdo My declaration of Self-Esteem aparece primeiro em Rita Aleluia.