Traditional forms of educations have failed. Now, we need to make a serious, conscious and in-depth reflection on what our intentions as parents and educators are, and what resources we really want to use to reach the answers that will enable us to create a harmonious, responsible and sustainable future for the humanity.

Parenting that starts with NLP and progresses to NLP & Generative

When I launched this new parenting proposal, I lovingly called it Parenting with NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming). When I completed my certification as NLP Trainer and Consultant, and later in Generative Coaching, I felt that, just like me, this parenting went one level up, and should therefore be renamed – NLP & Generative Parenting. As Robert Dilts tells us, the generative part of this work arises from creativity, from creating something totally new, something that did not exist before.

“I raised my children, with my wife, using Neuro-Linguistic Programming (PNL) a lot”
Robert Dilts

The co-creator of Generative Work – Generative Coaching and Generative Consulting – recalls that: “the generative part in parenting, in families, is extraordinarily decisive. When we try to get somewhere that is unknown, even if other parents have gone through something similar, we create a unique new path that requires very specific tools and practices.” Robert Dilts assures that “this is, most likely, the most important field for introducing a generative change.”

In our delightful conversation, Robert confesses, “I raised my children, with my wife, using Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) a lot and introducing the principles of generative change, so that they could be in the world with self-esteem and positive attitudes.” Also, “so that they could grow up with strategies that enable them to succeed on their own.” The co-developer of NLP is proud of his two children, what they bring to the world and his own job as a parent. His blue eyes become even brighter when he recalls “their sense of confidence, their positive look towards life, their self-abilities,” something that, at first, “they emulate from parents and then is supported by parents,” he concludes.

Parenting that combines NLP with generative coaching and creates generative change

“The person I am is best expressed in the world.”
Robert Dilts

This proposal “teach us how to communicate effectively, how we can empower others, especially children, so that they can be themselves, guiding them at the same time,” he reinforces.

NLP & Generative Parenting reveals you the most effective conscious practices let you really know yourself, to make you reach your essence and find out “where you belong in the family and in the world, how you can bring about and live that identity,” Robert Dilts adds. Thus, the “channel is open and the person I am is best expressed in the world.” “I cannot find anything more important for a parent or teacher than doing this with a child,” he assures.

And you, do you choose to join us in this generative shift to a better world?

You are very welcome!

O conteúdo NLP & Generative Parenting by Robert Dilts and Rita Aleluia aparece primeiro em Rita Aleluia.

An ANLP Award does not fall from the sky

No one wins an NLP Award by a sleight of hand, or just for the sake of it, or for having a beautiful smile. This is a responsible award, whose attribution recognizes the conscious contribution, either individual or collective, within the field of NLP, with strict evaluation criteria.

When I was nominated, I shared with you the meaning (portuguese) it had for me. Now I can add a bit more. Awards and rewards are not what I believe should be in the dictionary of life. But I believe in recognition. And this award is exactly that. It recognizes that I, Rita Aleluia, am a NLP professional who is helping to create an inclusive world, through NLP & Generative Parenting, an alternative route to an urgent new paradigm in education.

What you will read now is the alignment between vision, mission, role and ambition

The work I slowly started developing in 2011 has a huge positive impact on families and schools in many countries. This NLP Award is about human rights! It recognizes that we are all different and have equal value. That we grow from differences and inclusion is the way to go. It recognizes that our children may (re)situate us and direct us to the essential of our existence, to what is invisible to the eyes and decisive for the world to move forward. It recognizes that unconditional love is the cradle of humanity, that authenticity and congruence are godmothers. It recognizes that girls and boys, men and women are biologically different, but equal in emotions, desires, needs, opinions. That we are all part of something greater, that we are all one, that we are all responsible. That connection must be recognized, and the myth of perfection must let go. It also recognizes, for the first time, that Portugal has something to say worldwide and to contribute to Neuro-Linguistic Programing. 

I keep creating NLP & Generative Parenting with vision, lots of live, presence, sense of mission and I do it in community. A creation that has gone through an incredible improvement in quality over the last three months, as a result of many adjustments, research and experience on the ground. As a result of falling and rising again. Of a lot of resilience. Of embracing fear and evoking courage. Of trusting and moving forward, even when the world says, “you are crazy”. Of bringing peace to the hurricane woman that is hidden within me. Of letting shine the light that is unique. Everything that is done with the heart is aligned from the inside out, from heaven to Earth, from you to your next. This is the only equation I know and that I want to see happen in the work, the equation of love. Therefore, yes, the 2019 NLP Award in Education is mine and I deserve it.

Thank you to my daughters, my guru girls, who teach me what it is to love unconditionally; to my husband and partner, my accomplice for all times; to my parents, mentors, to you, who trust in this work, who accept to do different and create a better world. Without your trust and faith, none of this would be possible. Thanks to José Figueira with whom I started walking the path of NLP, to NLP U, where I learned about a systemic and generative NLP, to Robert and to Stephen for their contribution with Generative Coaching. Thanks to ANLP for having the courage to recognize merit to professionals from all over the world and to contribute a lot to honoring this noble profession. Thanks to life for allowing me to live my dreams and to be an example. Trust that everything is always right, everything is always well.

With love and gratitude,

Rita

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The NLP Awards are born from the intention of recognizing and honoring annually the impact and difference made by NLP professionals in all areas. As the organization puts it, “it is our chance to shout from the rooftops, be proud of the profession we represent and celebrate those who really are using NLP to make a difference out there in the real world and celebrate all that is good in our community.”

Nominations can be sent to the NLP International Awards by any person wishing to do so. They are then assessed by a judicious independent panel, composed of experienced NLP Master Trainers, who validate all the work presented and the impact thereof, regarding the nominee and decide whether or not he/she is able to be officially nominated for the awards. After the official nominees have been announced, the same jury will gather all information deemed relevant to decide, rigorously and independently, who the winners are in all categories. For instance, my nomination was sent by Judith DeLozier, by Robert Dilts and by Sónia Silva Franco (a biographer and journalist who does not even work in NLP, but who knows my work through my interviews, lectures, books and two of my training sessions that she attended).

Every year there was a buzz because neither John Grinder nor Richard Bandler had their names among the chosen ones. And this was only because no one has ever submitted their nomination. Disagreements between the two creators are well-known, as well as their consequences in the field of NLP, which is such a beautiful and important domain in this world. ANLP, an association to which I am honored to belong, decided to recognize the contribution of these two men through the NLP Awards, by the voice of president Karen Falconer. After all, if it were not for them, we would not be here today, here and now, to be the difference that makes the difference in the lives of so many people. The awards were accepted on their behalf by Robert Dilts.

May we all cooperate. May each one of us contribute with the best of himself/herself, with his/her unique gift, gathering synergies, building bridges, raising awareness levels, with much love and compassion. Welcoming, integrating and going beyond differences, that place, full of infinite opportunities, where we all may grow. This is how the world moves forward!

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I will not spend any energy in trying to resist this call. The focus on the essentials of life has been cooking inside me. I believe that, just as we have the capacity to create our prisons, overshadowing the capacity to value the simple and authentic side of live, at the same time we have access to the key that frees us from that prison.

Quite some time ago, I grabbed this key and started practicing. If it is easy? Well… as with any change, it caused me some discomfort at first, because the frenzy in which we choose to be immersed may [quite often] hide an escape from the place where we could/should be. After slowing down and starting the process, as I walk down this path, I have been invaded by a growing feeling of lightness.

For example, we used to travel on all our older daughter’s school holidays and long weekends. We lived on the magical Madeira Island, her father worked part of the time abroad. These travels forced us to pack for the four of us – both hold baggage and hand luggage – to unveil new destinations, and more luggage with other clothes for the remaining days we were in Cascais. The time [too much] I invested searching for possible places to know, searching for flights, preferably in an airline that would allow us to earn miles in the frequent flyer programme, search for accommodation, travel insurances, the best way to reach destinations without major inconvenience to our routines, especially for our eldest daughter [due to the various issues related to her diagnosis of global developmental delay], thinking about clothes and shoes for all traveling backwards and forwards… Although part of that time was also time for growth, all in all, it exceeded the limits of what is acceptable in our scale of tolerance. In addition to the demands of my profession, which requires a lot of presence, between coaching sessions, consulting, training, presence on RTP M, texts for the blog and for magazines, conferences, the youngest daughter in unschooling, the eldest between school, dance and therapy sessions, the father, when he was in Portugal, needing to stay in our nest, in tranquillity [mission (im)possible in the profession he chose]… We all needed more retirement and to slow down. To live with presence, in every moment. We postponed the trip [already scheduled] to the only continent we have not visited and left the kangaroos for future plans. We asked ourselves:

“What is the true intention of each trip?”

We kept our basic intention to extend world maps, ours and our daughters’. To know other cultures, especially those that are very different from ours, to learn that we are attracted to what is similar and we grow with what is different… And we added something: to embrace a simpler life, with more presence. Also, because that is what our children expect of us, presence.

We continue to travel, but now much less often, here and now. Another decision was that, whenever possible, they all accompany me on work trips. It has been very rewarding and beautiful.

In addition to all this, we decided to dispose of many material goods, toys, clothes, sell our house. Yes, you read it well. We still have no idea where we are going to live, not even if we are going to stay in Portugal or if we leave again to live in another country [I confess I am very tempted]. We simply trust. We trust our intuition, listen to our heart, we believe that all is right, all is well. You know this is one of those assumptions of Neuro-Linguistic Programming that is a prayer for me.

The most important things in life cannot be bought

The professor of Positive Psychology at Harvard, Tal Ben Sha-har reminds us that the best things in life are not things. That by accumulating goods, medals, money, we are invited to plunge into chaos, into neurotic and unrealistic perfectionism. That it takes peace away from us, it unbalances us, it is reflected in health. Also from this assumption, so that you can bring lightness into your life, through the conscious practices of a Nordic way of life, I created the Hygge Life Retreat which is about to happen.

Slow Down

Slow down and life begins to flow differently. Today, we are able to be just the four of us for hours on end, to feel the energy of a single place, to absorb the information from nature, with all our senses active, to see beyond what our eyes can see. It is so powerful, so special. We can now carry with us much more. This slowing down is also one of the proposals I make in NLP & Generative Parenting. I tell you about it in my book “Mães do Mundo” [“Mothers of the Word”], in the nine transformation steps.

I leave you a few steps so that you can peacefully choose to embrace a simpler life, with more presence. A serene and light life.

How to embrace a simple life with presence

1. Define what is your intention [or intentions] for your life

Intentions are flashlights that keep us on the desired path. You do not have to know exactly what the final destination is, but you should know which way to go, which direction you want to take.

2. Find out what is really important to you

This choice allows you to focus on what is essential and to dispose of everything that is superfluous, it allows you to put aside everything that is creating burden and occupying space in your life. It allows you to embrace what really brings you peace.

3. Unstuff

I am speaking about material goods, food in excess [or other addictions] and people.

Have you ever thought that you probably do not need more space, you need fewer things? What if instead of having more things done, you have less things to do?

Gather all that brings you light, what makes you feel light, energetic, willing to wake up every morning and be the difference that makes the difference in our world. Surround yourself with those who make you feel good. And remember that everything contains within itself its opposite. When the shadow emerge in the light, you may try to chant this mantra so influential and observe how powerful it can be.

4. Let go

This includes welcoming, integrating and transcending feelings of guilt, compulsive and negative habits, heavy emotions. Allow yourself to let chaos go and make room for light.

5. Contribute to a more sustainable world

This means you can start eating organic food, eating less meat [if you still eat it], less sugar [my resolution for this year] and processed foods. You can buy products from fair trade, from local shops, cycle instead of using the car, walking and investing in hikes that make you closer to nature, use public transport [when they exist and work well], help reforestation, eliminate the consumption of products that imply the devastation of the Amazon and of tropical forests, that exploit slave labour or child labour…

Believe me, every gesture you take, no matter how small they may seem to you, has an implication in the whole. As Rumi told us, I am not a drop in the ocean, I am the whole ocean in a drop.

6. Invest in relationships

What would happen if you exchanged text messages, WhatsApp, Messenger for your actual presence?! If instead of sending a message, you were the messenger who knocked on the door of that loved person to deliver the message by hand? If you swapped emojis for real hugs? Less technology, more human presence. I invite you to try and then share it with me. I will be waiting!

“The best gift we can give others is the quality of our presence.”
Richard Moss

7. Practice gratitude and generosity

Focus on what you have and not on what you believe [so often in an absolutely illusory way] you should have. Less is more! It is in giving that we receive. Create rituals, build your gratitude diary or pot. Happiness rarely visits those who complain a lot and live in judgement. Embrace a cause, a volunteer action and go for it! Empathy generates empathy. Love generates love.

If at this point in your life you feel you do not have time to do what is important to you and to your family, then stop doing things that are not important. Change is built in stages and happens when you make the commitment. Being instead of having! That is the status quo I believe that makes sense.

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I am not talking about charity, which through the eyes of my map of the world, implies that there is a stronger one helping a weaker one, excluding the possibility of growing together. I am telling you about kindness, generosity, inclusion, where everyone has equal value and dignity (values also shared by NLP & Generative Parenting) and, jointly, through collective intelligence (an equation where 1+1= 3…), everyone grows, with quality, creating in the world something never seen. For this to happen, social responsibility has a unique place here.

As a human being, as we are all, I want the one who is at a disadvantage (usually competitive and often temporary), for whatever reason, to bring to this stage what s/he is here to do. That is, may manifest his/her unique gift with dignity.

The ballerina and choreographer who revolutionized modern dance, Martha Graham, an incredible generative being, leaves us in her shining legacy the certainty that:

“There is a vitality, a vital force, an energy, a quickening that is translated through you into action, and because there is only one of you in all of time, this expression is unique. And if you block it, it will never exist through any other medium and it will be lost. The world will not have it.”

Eleven years ago, when I was still a journalist and I had become a mother only a few months before, I was gifted by Life with the huge privilege of meeting Henrique Amoedo. One of the most generative people I have ever met! Henrique, who spent so many years on the stage of high finance in São Paulo, decided to listen to his heart and body, allowed his essence to reveal itself and left from Brazil to Portugal, to the small Madeira Island. He gathered an amazing team, rowed (and still does) over and over in rough seas, transforming the force of the wind and tides in favour of inclusion. For 17 years, this wonderful Man has shown every day that everyone has something to contribute, everyone is valid and brilliant, not for their technique, but for passion, revealing that the body expresses what words cannot tell…

Henrique is the father of the group Dançando com a Diferença [Dancing with the Difference]. The day I met him, I let myself be touched. Two days later, I took my baby daughter to a rehearsal of that group. I felt in her a different vibration, so beautiful, a kind of amplified love, and I, far, very far from knowing that I was holding in my arms a daughter who eleven years later would have the blessing and joy of being one of the dancers of this inclusive group. I cannot find any word to describe the work they offer us, the incredible way they recognize each being, with no labels… I invite you to see it you’re your eyes and feel with your soul, your body, who they are. If you are in Lisbon, you now have the opportunity?.

The group Dançando com a Diferença, works with prestigious, world-known choreographers, reflecting the pure essence of dance, in all its splendor of unconditional love, selling out all venues where they perform, in Portugal, Brazil, Spain, Switzerland, United States…

The similarities attract us, but differences and diversity make us grow!

By assuming social responsibility, we are opening the channel, being the difference that makes the difference, welcoming, integrating and transcending, turning on the lights, so that the unique expressions that will definitely leverage the world may come into play on the safe of Life!

How do you choose to practice your social responsibility?

THANK YOU, Henrique, Telmo, Natércia and Nuno. I am really thankful to you!

P.S. – You can find the dance company also on their YouTube Channel, in Facebook, on IG.

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It is that mantra that I chant with my eyes closed, my hands placed where I feel discomfort in my body. If you start to notice, it can appear in your gut (enteric brain), or maybe as a tightening in the heart (cardiac brain). The tendency, through traditional education and the day-to-day rush, through fear inflicted on your body, is that you develop an escape strategy, you want to get rid of these unstructured but intense thoughts, feelings, those obstacles. But life is meant to be lived and is always happening for you. Obstacles are communicating something to you, they have a positive intention, very positive indeed. They are communicating a need to you.

In the practice of Conscious Systems®, this mantra is a blessing, a breath of fresh air that invites you to slow down the fast pace, to connect with your true essence, in authenticity and congruence, transforming obstacles into resources.

I invite you to try:

• It is interesting!
• I am sure that it makes sense!
• There is something here that wants to be revealed, wants to be welcomed, healed…
• Welcome!

Always keep in mind the power of choice! Your freedom to choose, at each moment, as many times as necessary, what you want and what you do not want. To choose consciously, with your three brains aligned with you, with your values, with your beliefs.

When I choose to chant the mantra of Conscious Systems®, I am choosing the serenity that only peace offers me, I am welcoming the certainty that everything is always right, everything is always well.

It helps me a lot to bear in mind the “cry of freedom” of Conscious Systems®:

Welcome, integrate and transcend!

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In September 2017, in Bali (where Gregory Bateson – one of the role models of NLP, has lived for three years to investigate something far ahead of his time, which he then put into his work “Balinese Character – A Photographic Analysis”), concrete steps began to be taken to put it on paper. New assumptions adapted to it are being created, new approaches to modelling (the basis of NPL) and much more. Thus, with the presence of Robert and Deborah Dilts, with the contribution of Stephen Gilligan and Judith DeLozier, we gathered 24 participants from all over the World – Master Practitioners, Trainers, Master Trainers and co-authors of NLP, and we started the co-creation, an exploration that goes far beyond techniques and tools. The first step was to model spiritual leaders (who we found out in the field to be ‘healers’) and to feel the importance of modeling communities instead of individuals.

Then, in January, in Alicante, at the NLP Leadership Summit, the 4th Generation NLP was formally presented. I am blessed to be part of the group of co-creators and to be able to contribute more actively to be and make the difference that makes the difference in our World.

Speaking of difference, I now summarize the discussion led by Robert in our working group at the NLP Leadership Summit.

The difference that makes the difference in 4th Generation NLP

The 1st Generation NLP was led by the cognitive mind (Cognitive Intelligence), from where a therapeutic model would emerge; in the 2nd Generation NLP, the somatic part, the beliefs (Somatic Intelligence) were introduced and the model of Coaching emerged; in the 3rd Generation NLP, there is already the notion of ‘field’ between two people (in a first phase – Relational Intelligence); now, by integrating that ‘field’ and taking it far beyond, in the 4th Generation NLP, just like what happens in Generative work (Generative Change), there is a “we” that broadens, a Spiritual Intelligence. “We” as a community, “we” as a part of a Planet. And the concept of ‘Holon’ and hologram arises. In a hologram, the whole is everywhere, and every part can recreate the whole.

In the 4th Generation NLP, the notion of spirit emerges, not in the religious sense but as a subjective experience, something that is beyond me. Quantum physics goes along these lines as well and has proven the notion of systems and the notion that unpredictable events arise from them. This is from where the ‘morphogenetic fields’ also arise, of which I will tell you in a future article.

We already know that “the map is not the territory” and that we are the result of subjective experiences. So, let’s understand how we do it in a practical way, without putting our maps of beliefs on top of what arises during the experience.

The 4th Generation NLP seeks to understand if the ‘field’ is the ‘source’ or if the ‘source’ is the ‘field’. It tries to understand two phenomena: something emerges, and I do not know where it comes from and something passes through me (I channel it).

The metaphor of iPhone and 4th Generation NLP

The 4th Generation NPL does not abandon the previous generations, it integrates them! Just like the various generations of iPhone. The first generation of iPhone had no Bluetooth or Wireless. Thus, with the passing of the generations, the ‘field’ has been broadening and has incorporated Wi-Fi, 3G… A new consciousness emerges as a result of the interaction between the various systems.

«It is impossible, in principle,
to explain any pattern by invoking a single quantity.»
Gregory Bateson

Co-creation continues throughout the world. It is a slow process which, like what happened in previous generations, can take years to be completed. But believe me, some things are worth all the time we wait for them. Until then, we remain connected, more and more aware of this. I promise to come back here and talk you about 4th Generation NPL, with news that are much bigger than us.

O conteúdo This is 4th Generation NLP aparece primeiro em Rita Aleluia.

Silicon Valley is a real inspiration to me. For two years I have visited the region, a few companies, of which I highlight Google, and I am part of a Mastermind group that was born there. I feel that many things, very good things that are changing the world for better emerge there (my loved Conscious Systems is an example). Of course, I visited SRI International. I had the honor and the luck of having the vice-president, Robert Pearlstein, as a host.

SRI International is an independent, non-profit institute that works in the areas of cutting-edge technologies, from their design to getting to the market. I venture to say that everything that guides what is best in the modern world goes through the rigorous sieve of SRI International. SIRI was born here, such as the mouse, the copy and paste, online banking, the medical ultrasound, oncological treatments… As you can imagine, the field is incredible! Curiosity and creativity guiding the day-to-day agenda!

In such a special place, Success Factor Modeling is king and teamwork is key to success. SRI International believes that the greatest challenges and social opportunities require the collective work of the most brilliant and pragmatic minds, those who think and act out of the box, thus making the difference.

In Silicon Valley (where I am always so happy), the most entrepreneurial and successful companies know well the power of defining intentions, of focus, of flexibility and the result of working as a team, thus generating healthier lives with more knowledge, prosperity and peace. This is what inspires me so much in that valley and what has so much inspired Conscious Systems (taking the risk of being repetitive).

Education (a topic that is so dear to me), biomedical sciences, materials chemistry, IT systems, economic development, energy technology, environmental learning, national security and defense, as well as sensors and devices, artificial intelligence are some of the many areas highlighted at SRI International.  SRI has already registered more than a thousand patents all over the world.

The eternal feminine at SRI International, Silicon Valley and Conscious Systems

This is a place where women (mostly scientists) have a voice, where I found equal value, authenticity, congruence, responsibility and inclusion. In essence, I found the values of Conscious Systems being practiced at SRI International, it was not by change that it was born there. And that is so good! It Is wonderful to see how an institute with the power that SRI International has, in Silicon Valley, takes further beyond the discussion on issues such as diversity, the challenges that women face in their everyday life, the progress standing out and how it is possible to welcome and attract even more women into this brave world. This is really a place where intentions guide optimist and make it happen.

Meanwhile, and since here at home we are all science fans and we try to take it to our daughters (even because the youngest one says she is a scientist and astronaut), knowing that this can be a real challenge I share this research that may interest you, inspire you and open new and potential horizons.

At SRI International, in Silicon Valley, the future is now, it is a decision and it is here! I contribute with Conscious Systems and I believe that, in fact, today the world is a place with more future than yesterday.

May the entrepreneur spirit of Silicon Valley be with you!

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Today we talk about happiness in the family.

«We often see that children have a responsibility from young age and are asked to contribute. They are raised to be aware of their responsibility to contribute to society and to take care of others.»

Which difference makes a difference in Danish families?
For Danish families it is common that both parents are working and very common that all children are in childcare. Often public childcare. It is also common to live together as a family, and have siblings and grandparents living further away, spread over the country. Raising children in Denmark is about making them independent and help them grow into responsible adults. We often see that children have a responsibility from young age and are asked to contribute. They are raised to be aware of their responsibility to contribute to society and to take care of others.

Is there any “formula” in the Danish collective unconscious for families to live in harmony?
Many families want to live in harmony. But in Denmark the divorce rate is also very high. So I also think that many Danes want to always be able to pursue what they find best. And sometimes that does not mean keeping the family together. Danes focus on their freedom as an important value as well.

«In Denmark we have a culture where children are taught to understand a message and to take responsibility, rather than being physically punished.»

In many European countries, shouting, spanking and punishment inflicted on children are still socially accepted and defended. What do you think about these practices?
In Denmark it is forbidden by law to hit or hurt children in any way. And in Denmark we have a culture where children are taught to understand a message and to take responsibility, rather than being physically punished.

How do you believe that can we educate for happiness?
We can be aware of our own happiness first. We are responsible for our own happiness – and we are responsible for the happiness of people around us. And then we can educate by informing people about what creates happiness. That means, for example, that social relations and a good health are more important than a raise in income. At the Institute we try to educate and inform people. And we hope to reach many people every year and to make them work on creating happiness as well.

«We are responsible for our own happiness – and we are responsible for the happiness of people around us.»

How can we free a mother from the burden of a family?
We find that mothers are often happy in their families, but we can also see that there is something called “parental gap”, where parents will experience a decrease in happiness, when they have children, but then an increase when they have grandchildren. We find that this is due to more worries arising when we have children. This can be prevented with good family policies, as in countries like Denmark, Sweden and the Netherlands. Here the gap is smaller because parents will not have to worry with schools or hospitals for their children. And there will be good childcare and many ways to be a family, which will make it easier to find the form that fits each individual family.

Kindness, trust, empathy, equal value… these are the key to a happy family?
Yes, we find that good and strong social ties are important. And the values you mention are positive to creating strong social ties. As well as freedom to make our own life choices.

What still needs to be done to have a world where families live in harmony, and where equal value and responsibility prevail?
We think that good family policies and a political awareness to take care of the needs of families and children are important to achieve this goal.

O conteúdo The secret of the happiest families on Earth aparece primeiro em Rita Aleluia.

You think of every step of your life with every thought you create or plant, with every word you say. So change your thoughts and make room for a new life to emerge!

As simple as that? Yes!

«Be careful with what you wish for, it may come true.»

Whether you like it or not, you become what you are thinking about! Do not complain you are a victim of your life! If you focus on scarcity, you will attract scarcity! If you focus on abundance, you will attract abundance! It is an elementary equation!

Have you ever wondered how it would be if, instead of hiding from yourself in front of a computer screen or watching TV, sending text messages… you turned the spotlight within yourself and went to meet your inner self? That is where your great potential lies!

Through Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) and Generative Coaching, it is possible to change your thoughts in a way that is consistent with our values and intentions, thus creating a new “SELF”. I like to say, because I believe it, that you are rescuing the best version of yourself.

This process causes biochemical and neurochemical changes, you change your thought patterns and everything gets transformed. The present moment creates the next, and the next creates the following. You always act in the only moment you have: the present moment. You always welcome the positive intention of any emotion, any feeling that seems negative at first sight. All that you need comes to you. You know that feelings do not come from problems, they come from the thoughts you have about the problems.

How?

When you look in the mirror and say: “I am capable!”

If you feel any discomfort in your body, if any contradictory thought arises, welcome it, it is communicating something to you. Something in you wants do be accepted and integrated. It is the principle of transformation. First, you accept that things are what they are, without resignation, only with awareness. The metamorphosis is born from here.

«Where focus goes, your energy flows.»

You and me and everything that is alive, we are all energy. It is, therefore, available to you, although (so often) you are not aware of it and do not use all its potential.

A few days ago, in a coaching session, a young entrepreneur told me: “I wanted to go to that dinner, but I cannot, this month the bills seem to have doubled!”. What happens it that, at this moment, the focus is on financial scarcity. What we do in NLP is directing it this way: “It is important to me to go to that dinner, so I develop strategies that allow me to have more money available!”

In our Practitioner we also work on the beliefs and believe me, it is possible to transform a limiting belief into a highly empowering one, with the fantastic consequences that you can imagine. Your resources increase significantly, the ability to let go of what no longer serves you arises, your negative thoughts gain strength and the habit of abundance sets in.

Have you noticed that every time you decided that you were going to achieve something, you did it?! Interesting.

Change happens the instant you choose to abandon the old patterns and install new ones. At that moment, your energy starts to flow into a new place and new results emerge.

Now go, take the first step and build your (properly) desired life!

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