Leadership • Rita Aleluia https://www.ritaaleluia.com/en/category/leadership/ Awakening People Fri, 28 Jan 2022 14:14:41 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://www.ritaaleluia.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/11/cropped-favicon-2020-32x32.png Leadership • Rita Aleluia https://www.ritaaleluia.com/en/category/leadership/ 32 32 The science of heart-brain coherence into parenting https://www.ritaaleluia.com/en/the-science-heart-brain-coherence-into-parenting/ https://www.ritaaleluia.com/en/the-science-heart-brain-coherence-into-parenting/#respond Fri, 28 Jan 2022 14:10:43 +0000 https://www.ritaaleluia.com/the-science-of-heart-brain-coherence-into-parenting/ Generative parenting embodies the heart and brain coherence. A practice based on the latest advances in science. Neuroscience, neurocardiology, epigenetics and quantum physics come together in this parental and life proposal.

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The title of this article maybe it should be “heart and brain coherence in generative parenting and in everything in life”. For more than a decade of researching, experimenting and developing generative parenting, spreading it to the five continents, to people, families and organizations with such different cultures and believes, I was intrigued by the fact that some practitioners incorporate GP (generative parenting®) becoming agents of transformation and change in their personal, family, professional and community life and others, take a long time or regress to the know (even when it is not functional for them).

Since Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) deals with what specifically works well, I investigated the patterns and found the answer!

The difference that makes the difference

It is the daily practice of heart and brain meditations that generates change at the energy level. I already mentioned in previous articles that the heart influences the brain and vice versa. And this can be a harmonious and coherent dance or a survival and chaotic dance (which is where much of humanity tends to live, particularly in the these years). Do we choose maintain chaos and disconnection? Is this that we want to keep perpetuating for generations?!

– No!!

Relax, close your eyes, focus and surrender

If we want to guide our children, being ourselves, parents, educators, teachers… an example of what we want to see in the world, with oneness, we can opt for relaxation, focus on the heart and generate generative emotions. When this happens, the heart begins to produce a very low rate, only possible with the heart rate. Science now shows that this meditative practice makes us more creative. The heart informs the brain that it is safe to create, to awaken, to create consciousness to live and strive rather than survive. And this is how we begin to see possibilities, light, where before we saw obstacles and darkness.

The science behind generative parenting

My heart seems to burst with joy every time a new article is published in a scientific journal confirming generative parenting practices. Because NLP, created 50 years ago, one of the pillars of GP, is not science, nor psychology, nor psychotherapy. Still, today, the latest advances in science (especially the vast majority of confirmations from my dear HeartMath scientists), demonstrate everything that NLP has given us brought from the beginning, when it was still called META.

Goodbye degenerative emotions

This harmonious and coherent dance between the heart and the brain allows us to generously and gratefully say goodbye to degenerative emotions, those that take away our vital energy, that put us on the survival side: stress, anxiety, worry… We now broaden horizons and see possibilities. In other words, we activate the parasympathetic nervous system, responsible for the conscious creation of our lives! Why? Because we begin to generate generative emotions, which nourish our energy by expanding it to those around us.

I explained the process in my talk at the Global NLP Online Summit India. You find here a little taste:

All this to say that the more relaxed we live in our heart, the more our brain and body open to energy. When we are no longer focused on survival, anxious, worried about dangers, threats, about the next moment – and we already know that where we put the focus, we put the energy – the body is super relaxed, calm and the mind more awake and aware.

Because just as degenerative emotions have the power to activate the sympathetic nervous system, generative emotions do it in the opposite direction, generating physical, mental and spiritual well-being. In us, in our children and in the Planet!

The secondary effect of heart-brain coherence

We start living in ourselves, conscious and joyful. Is there a better gift for a child than having parents that embody presence? Parents who vibrate unconditional love and acceptance?!

This coherent energy raises our consciousness and we feel safe to create from the unknown. That is to say, we leave the three-dimensional reality: cause – effect and we go on to live in the quantum reality, causing an effect.

I share with you a testimony of someone who experienced for the first time the “heart-brain coherence” meditation I developed for PG:

And that is why those who are truly committed to the daily practice of generative parenting see infinite possibilities. And no, that does not mean that we do not have obstacles in life. It means that we welcome, integrate and transcend the wisdom that each of the obstacles offers us, with the elegance of dance, a coherent heart and brain. It means that we choose to assign new meanings to the events of our lives. Meanings that allow us to consciously self (re)parent. Only then can we guide our children!!

And now, do we choose to open our hearts or not?

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NLP & Generative Parenting by Robert Dilts and Rita Aleluia https://www.ritaaleluia.com/en/nlp-generative-parenting-robert-dilts-rita-aleluia/ https://www.ritaaleluia.com/en/nlp-generative-parenting-robert-dilts-rita-aleluia/#respond Tue, 22 Oct 2019 15:20:50 +0000 https://www.ritaaleluia.com/nlp-generative-parenting-by-robert-dilts-and-rita-aleluia/ Robert Dilts and Rita Aleluia talk about NLP & Generative Parenting. Neuro-Linguistic Programming at the service of generative change. The most effective conscious practices to let you know yourself, to make you reach your essence and find out where you belong in the family and in the world, how you can bring about and live that identity.

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We live in a world that calls loudly for an urgent change, requiring solutions never experienced before and a paradigm shift, giving rise to something totally new, is present in the proposal of NLP & Generative Parenting, as you can read and listen in this conversation between me, Rita Aleluia, and Robert Dilts, the co-developer of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) of Generative Work, of Success Factor Modeling (SFM), co-founder of the NLP University, California, author.

Traditional forms of educations have failed. Now, we need to make a serious, conscious and in-depth reflection on what our intentions as parents and educators are, and what resources we really want to use to reach the answers that will enable us to create a harmonious, responsible and sustainable future for the humanity.

Parenting that starts with NLP and progresses to NLP & Generative

When I launched this new parenting proposal, I lovingly called it Parenting with NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming). When I completed my certification as NLP Trainer and Consultant, and later in Generative Coaching, I felt that, just like me, this parenting went one level up, and should therefore be renamed – NLP & Generative Parenting. As Robert Dilts tells us, the generative part of this work arises from creativity, from creating something totally new, something that did not exist before.

“I raised my children, with my wife, using Neuro-Linguistic Programming (PNL) a lot”
Robert Dilts

The co-creator of Generative Work – Generative Coaching and Generative Consulting – recalls that: “the generative part in parenting, in families, is extraordinarily decisive. When we try to get somewhere that is unknown, even if other parents have gone through something similar, we create a unique new path that requires very specific tools and practices.” Robert Dilts assures that “this is, most likely, the most important field for introducing a generative change.”

In our delightful conversation, Robert confesses, “I raised my children, with my wife, using Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) a lot and introducing the principles of generative change, so that they could be in the world with self-esteem and positive attitudes.” Also, “so that they could grow up with strategies that enable them to succeed on their own.” The co-developer of NLP is proud of his two children, what they bring to the world and his own job as a parent. His blue eyes become even brighter when he recalls “their sense of confidence, their positive look towards life, their self-abilities,” something that, at first, “they emulate from parents and then is supported by parents,” he concludes.

Parenting that combines NLP with generative coaching and creates generative change

“The person I am is best expressed in the world.”
Robert Dilts

This proposal “teach us how to communicate effectively, how we can empower others, especially children, so that they can be themselves, guiding them at the same time,” he reinforces.

NLP & Generative Parenting reveals you the most effective conscious practices let you really know yourself, to make you reach your essence and find out “where you belong in the family and in the world, how you can bring about and live that identity,” Robert Dilts adds. Thus, the “channel is open and the person I am is best expressed in the world.” “I cannot find anything more important for a parent or teacher than doing this with a child,” he assures.

And you, do you choose to join us in this generative shift to a better world?

You are very welcome!

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Rita Aleluia recognized with the NLP Award for her contribution in Education https://www.ritaaleluia.com/en/rita-aleluia-recognized-with-nlp-award-for-contribution-education/ https://www.ritaaleluia.com/en/rita-aleluia-recognized-with-nlp-award-for-contribution-education/#respond Fri, 24 May 2019 10:43:51 +0000 https://www.ritaaleluia.com/rita-aleluia-recognized-with-the-nlp-award-for-her-contribution-in-education/ Rita Aleluia is recognized with the 2019 NLP Award for her contribution in Education, through the creation of NLP & Generative Parenting. The award was given by ANLP in London.

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We were both (Judith DeLozier and I) hugging and laughing, with our eyes watery with emotion and happiness, like two schoolgirls. Until a man with a firm but tender voice comes close and looks at us in the eyes, points his finger at me and says: “This award is yours! Acknowledge yourself!” Soon, I had tears running down my face, in a mixture of joy and the certainty that this man, Stephen Gilligan, was absolutely right.

An ANLP Award does not fall from the sky

No one wins an NLP Award by a sleight of hand, or just for the sake of it, or for having a beautiful smile. This is a responsible award, whose attribution recognizes the conscious contribution, either individual or collective, within the field of NLP, with strict evaluation criteria.

Rita Aleluia speeching at NLP Awards 2019
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When I was nominated, I shared with you the meaning (portuguese) it had for me. Now I can add a bit more. Awards and rewards are not what I believe should be in the dictionary of life. But I believe in recognition. And this award is exactly that. It recognizes that I, Rita Aleluia, am a NLP professional who is helping to create an inclusive world, through NLP & Generative Parenting, an alternative route to an urgent new paradigm in education.

What you will read now is the alignment between vision, mission, role and ambition

The work I slowly started developing in 2011 has a huge positive impact on families and schools in many countries. This NLP Award is about human rights! It recognizes that we are all different and have equal value. That we grow from differences and inclusion is the way to go. It recognizes that our children may (re)situate us and direct us to the essential of our existence, to what is invisible to the eyes and decisive for the world to move forward. It recognizes that unconditional love is the cradle of humanity, that authenticity and congruence are godmothers. It recognizes that girls and boys, men and women are biologically different, but equal in emotions, desires, needs, opinions. That we are all part of something greater, that we are all one, that we are all responsible. That connection must be recognized, and the myth of perfection must let go. It also recognizes, for the first time, that Portugal has something to say worldwide and to contribute to Neuro-Linguistic Programing. 

Rita Aleluia winning education category at NLP Awards 2019.
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I keep creating NLP & Generative Parenting with vision, lots of live, presence, sense of mission and I do it in community. A creation that has gone through an incredible improvement in quality over the last three months, as a result of many adjustments, research and experience on the ground. As a result of falling and rising again. Of a lot of resilience. Of embracing fear and evoking courage. Of trusting and moving forward, even when the world says, “you are crazy”. Of bringing peace to the hurricane woman that is hidden within me. Of letting shine the light that is unique. Everything that is done with the heart is aligned from the inside out, from heaven to Earth, from you to your next. This is the only equation I know and that I want to see happen in the work, the equation of love. Therefore, yes, the 2019 NLP Award in Education is mine and I deserve it.

Rita Aleluia with it own award at NLP Awards 2019
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Thank you to my daughters, my guru girls, who teach me what it is to love unconditionally; to my husband and partner, my accomplice for all times; to my parents, mentors, to you, who trust in this work, who accept to do different and create a better world. Without your trust and faith, none of this would be possible. Thanks to José Figueira with whom I started walking the path of NLP, to NLP U, where I learned about a systemic and generative NLP, to Robert and to Stephen for their contribution with Generative Coaching. Thanks to ANLP for having the courage to recognize merit to professionals from all over the world and to contribute a lot to honoring this noble profession. Thanks to life for allowing me to live my dreams and to be an example. Trust that everything is always right, everything is always well.

With love and gratitude,

Rita

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John Grinder and Richard Bandler were awarded the Lifetime Services to NLP Award https://www.ritaaleluia.com/en/john-grinder-richard-bandler-were-awarded-lifetime-services-nlp-award/ https://www.ritaaleluia.com/en/john-grinder-richard-bandler-were-awarded-lifetime-services-nlp-award/#respond Tue, 21 May 2019 15:43:44 +0000 https://www.ritaaleluia.com/john-grinder-and-richard-bandler-were-awarded-the-lifetime-services-to-nlp-award/ John Grinder and Richard Bandler were awarded with the ‘Lifetime Services to NLP’ award, at the ceremony of the 2019 NLP Awards.

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If there is something certain arising within me is that one must “be the difference you want to see in the world”, and this is exactly the meaning of the granting of the “Lifetime Services to NLP” Award, at the ceremony of the 2019 NLP Awards, to John Grinder and Richard Bandler, the parents of NLP.

The NLP Awards are born from the intention of recognizing and honoring annually the impact and difference made by NLP professionals in all areas. As the organization puts it, “it is our chance to shout from the rooftops, be proud of the profession we represent and celebrate those who really are using NLP to make a difference out there in the real world and celebrate all that is good in our community.

Nominations can be sent to the NLP International Awards by any person wishing to do so. They are then assessed by a judicious independent panel, composed of experienced NLP Master Trainers, who validate all the work presented and the impact thereof, regarding the nominee and decide whether or not he/she is able to be officially nominated for the awards. After the official nominees have been announced, the same jury will gather all information deemed relevant to decide, rigorously and independently, who the winners are in all categories. For instance, my nomination was sent by Judith DeLozier, by Robert Dilts and by Sónia Silva Franco (a biographer and journalist who does not even work in NLP, but who knows my work through my interviews, lectures, books and two of my training sessions that she attended).

John Grinder and Richard Bandler Awards under 2019 NLP cerimony

Every year there was a buzz because neither John Grinder nor Richard Bandler had their names among the chosen ones. And this was only because no one has ever submitted their nomination. Disagreements between the two creators are well-known, as well as their consequences in the field of NLP, which is such a beautiful and important domain in this world. ANLP, an association to which I am honored to belong, decided to recognize the contribution of these two men through the NLP Awards, by the voice of president Karen Falconer. After all, if it were not for them, we would not be here today, here and now, to be the difference that makes the difference in the lives of so many people. The awards were accepted on their behalf by Robert Dilts.

May we all cooperate. May each one of us contribute with the best of himself/herself, with his/her unique gift, gathering synergies, building bridges, raising awareness levels, with much love and compassion. Welcoming, integrating and going beyond differences, that place, full of infinite opportunities, where we all may grow. This is how the world moves forward!

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Reasons to embrace a simple life with presence https://www.ritaaleluia.com/en/reasons-to-embrace-simple-life-with-presence/ https://www.ritaaleluia.com/en/reasons-to-embrace-simple-life-with-presence/#respond Tue, 01 Jan 2019 21:42:02 +0000 http://www.ritaaleluia.com/razoes-abracar-vida-simples-com-presenca/ Being instead of having is possible when you choose to embrace a simple life with presence! That is the status quo I believe that makes sense. Here are a few steps to make it happen this year. This is also a proposal of NLP & Generative Parenting, which extends to all areas of life.

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2019 arrived and brought in the eyes the brightness [almost] tricky of challenge, of someone who wants to do different, better, to embrace a simple life, with more presence, a life with lightness and detachment.

I will not spend any energy in trying to resist this call. The focus on the essentials of life has been cooking inside me. I believe that, just as we have the capacity to create our prisons, overshadowing the capacity to value the simple and authentic side of live, at the same time we have access to the key that frees us from that prison.

Quite some time ago, I grabbed this key and started practicing. If it is easy? Well… as with any change, it caused me some discomfort at first, because the frenzy in which we choose to be immersed may [quite often] hide an escape from the place where we could/should be. After slowing down and starting the process, as I walk down this path, I have been invaded by a growing feeling of lightness.

For example, we used to travel on all our older daughter’s school holidays and long weekends. We lived on the magical Madeira Island, her father worked part of the time abroad. These travels forced us to pack for the four of us – both hold baggage and hand luggage – to unveil new destinations, and more luggage with other clothes for the remaining days we were in Cascais. The time [too much] I invested searching for possible places to know, searching for flights, preferably in an airline that would allow us to earn miles in the frequent flyer programme, search for accommodation, travel insurances, the best way to reach destinations without major inconvenience to our routines, especially for our eldest daughter [due to the various issues related to her diagnosis of global developmental delay], thinking about clothes and shoes for all traveling backwards and forwards… Although part of that time was also time for growth, all in all, it exceeded the limits of what is acceptable in our scale of tolerance. In addition to the demands of my profession, which requires a lot of presence, between coaching sessions, consulting, training, presence on RTP M, texts for the blog and for magazines, conferences, the youngest daughter in unschooling, the eldest between school, dance and therapy sessions, the father, when he was in Portugal, needing to stay in our nest, in tranquillity [mission (im)possible in the profession he chose]… We all needed more retirement and to slow down. To live with presence, in every moment. We postponed the trip [already scheduled] to the only continent we have not visited and left the kangaroos for future plans. We asked ourselves:

“What is the true intention of each trip?”

We kept our basic intention to extend world maps, ours and our daughters’. To know other cultures, especially those that are very different from ours, to learn that we are attracted to what is similar and we grow with what is different… And we added something: to embrace a simpler life, with more presence. Also, because that is what our children expect of us, presence.

We continue to travel, but now much less often, here and now. Another decision was that, whenever possible, they all accompany me on work trips. It has been very rewarding and beautiful.

In addition to all this, we decided to dispose of many material goods, toys, clothes, sell our house. Yes, you read it well. We still have no idea where we are going to live, not even if we are going to stay in Portugal or if we leave again to live in another country [I confess I am very tempted]. We simply trust. We trust our intuition, listen to our heart, we believe that all is right, all is well. You know this is one of those assumptions of Neuro-Linguistic Programming that is a prayer for me.

The most important things in life cannot be bought

The professor of Positive Psychology at Harvard, Tal Ben Sha-har reminds us that the best things in life are not things. That by accumulating goods, medals, money, we are invited to plunge into chaos, into neurotic and unrealistic perfectionism. That it takes peace away from us, it unbalances us, it is reflected in health. Also from this assumption, so that you can bring lightness into your life, through the conscious practices of a Nordic way of life, I created the Hygge Life Retreat which is about to happen.Success Factor Modeling books

Slow Down

Slow down and life begins to flow differently. Today, we are able to be just the four of us for hours on end, to feel the energy of a single place, to absorb the information from nature, with all our senses active, to see beyond what our eyes can see. It is so powerful, so special. We can now carry with us much more. This slowing down is also one of the proposals I make in NLP & Generative Parenting. I tell you about it in my book “Mães do Mundo” [“Mothers of the Word”], in the nine transformation steps.

I leave you a few steps so that you can peacefully choose to embrace a simpler life, with more presence. A serene and light life.

How to embrace a simple life with presence

1. Define what is your intention [or intentions] for your life

Intentions are flashlights that keep us on the desired path. You do not have to know exactly what the final destination is, but you should know which way to go, which direction you want to take.

2. Find out what is really important to you

This choice allows you to focus on what is essential and to dispose of everything that is superfluous, it allows you to put aside everything that is creating burden and occupying space in your life. It allows you to embrace what really brings you peace.

3. Unstuff

I am speaking about material goods, food in excess [or other addictions] and people.

Have you ever thought that you probably do not need more space, you need fewer things? What if instead of having more things done, you have less things to do?

Gather all that brings you light, what makes you feel light, energetic, willing to wake up every morning and be the difference that makes the difference in our world. Surround yourself with those who make you feel good. And remember that everything contains within itself its opposite. When the shadow emerge in the light, you may try to chant this mantra so influential and observe how powerful it can be.

4. Let go

This includes welcoming, integrating and transcending feelings of guilt, compulsive and negative habits, heavy emotions. Allow yourself to let chaos go and make room for light.

5. Contribute to a more sustainable world

This means you can start eating organic food, eating less meat [if you still eat it], less sugar [my resolution for this year] and processed foods. You can buy products from fair trade, from local shops, cycle instead of using the car, walking and investing in hikes that make you closer to nature, use public transport [when they exist and work well], help reforestation, eliminate the consumption of products that imply the devastation of the Amazon and of tropical forests, that exploit slave labour or child labour…

Believe me, every gesture you take, no matter how small they may seem to you, has an implication in the whole. As Rumi told us, I am not a drop in the ocean, I am the whole ocean in a drop.

6. Invest in relationships

What would happen if you exchanged text messages, WhatsApp, Messenger for your actual presence?! If instead of sending a message, you were the messenger who knocked on the door of that loved person to deliver the message by hand? If you swapped emojis for real hugs? Less technology, more human presence. I invite you to try and then share it with me. I will be waiting!

The best gift we can give others is the quality of our presence.
Richard Moss

7. Practice gratitude and generosity

Focus on what you have and not on what you believe [so often in an absolutely illusory way] you should have. Less is more! It is in giving that we receive. Create rituals, build your gratitude diary or pot. Happiness rarely visits those who complain a lot and live in judgement. Embrace a cause, a volunteer action and go for it! Empathy generates empathy. Love generates love.

If at this point in your life you feel you do not have time to do what is important to you and to your family, then stop doing things that are not important. Change is built in stages and happens when you make the commitment. Being instead of having! That is the status quo I believe that makes sense.

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NLP and Education https://www.ritaaleluia.com/en/nlp-and-education/ https://www.ritaaleluia.com/en/nlp-and-education/#respond Thu, 11 Oct 2018 10:20:33 +0000 http://www.ritaaleluia.com/nlp-and-education/ NLP and Education is about pouring the cup and creating space so that something never experienced before can emerge. It is not about perfection, is about being conscious and authentic. And NLP & Generative Parenting is born therefrom.

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Create in the World families living in harmony, connected, authentic, with room for everyone to be who they really are (in their essence), this is the beloved child of NLP and Education. And NLP & Generative Parenting is born therefrom.

Having said that, you can now anticipate that NLP and Education is the cradle for everthing in life! So powerful!

What is the difference that makes the difference when we compare NLP and Education with other approaches?

I would like to have a linear response, but, as in everything in this Life, such a response does not exist. Even because I do not know (in fact, nobody does) the infinite educational approaches that exist in the world. There are families, organizations, schools, universities… that find in the practice of NLP and Education the ‘formulas’ to create the conditions to achieve success (in the various meanings you may choose to give it), with ecology, ethics and tranquility, in what they intend to do. And there is not a single formula, every family draws its own strategy – that is the great beauty of NLP.

For it to really operate, the generative change in the World.

Then, as we have discussed before, NLP and Education offers you tools that, if you do not transform into practices, will not serve you or those around you. That is why I apply them in conjunction with Generative Coaching. So that it can really bring about the generative change in the World.

Pulling a wheelbarrow with children on a dirt road in front of a large wooden house can be part of an NLP and Education activity.

I always say that NLP and Education is a way of Living! Ah, and it is not about being perfect, but rather about being conscious and authentic. If you have already read my book “Mães do Mundo” (Mothers of the World), it is not something new.

Among the many models we use, I like to highlight the power of intentions that emerge after we explore, to the fullest extent, the Neurological Levels, as well as the amazing Communication Model, which enables us to communicate with authenticity and congruence, with ourselves and with others, and the power of Language. The Anchors, the Perceptive Positions, which also allow you to put yourself in the place of others, becoming aware of the diversity of Maps of the World, discovering and activating resources… What about the wonderful rapport?! If we start from the assumptions of NLP, we will find the basis. For example, you are not your behaviour, and it is always the best you can have at that time, it is what it is and everything is always well. And more, much more! Yes, it is magic!

One of the persons who most inspires my mission is Maria Montessori and in the practices of NLP and Education, in NLP & Generative Parenting, I find space for this to happen naturally:

Help me to grow, but help me do it myself”.
Maria Montessori

NLP and Education is about pouring the cup and creating space so that something never experienced before can emerge. Come along, it is time, it is ‘tea time’.

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To Be Generative is to assume social responsibility by acting collectively https://www.ritaaleluia.com/en/generative-assume-social-responsibility-acting-collectively/ https://www.ritaaleluia.com/en/generative-assume-social-responsibility-acting-collectively/#respond Thu, 27 Sep 2018 09:39:07 +0000 http://www.ritaaleluia.com/to-be-generative-is-to-assume-social-responsibility-by-acting-collectively/ When you assume social responsibility, you are acting collectively, opening the channel, being the difference that makes the difference, welcoming, integrating and transcending, turning on the lights, so that the unique expressions that will definitely leverage the world may come into play on the safe of Life! You are then generative and practice NLP & Generative Parenting!

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One of the values that guide the educational proposal of NLP & Generative Parenting is inclusion, is assuming social responsibility, is creating social sustainability, a dynamic movement and generative that occurs in the plural, collectively, promoting a generative change in the world.

I am not talking about charity, which through the eyes of my map of the world, implies that there is a stronger one helping a weaker one, excluding the possibility of growing together. I am telling you about kindness, generosity, inclusion, where everyone has equal value and dignity (values also shared by NLP & Generative Parenting) and, jointly, through collective intelligence (an equation where 1+1= 3…), everyone grows, with quality, creating in the world something never seen. For this to happen, social responsibility has a unique place here.

As a human being, as we are all, I want the one who is at a disadvantage (usually competitive and often temporary), for whatever reason, to bring to this stage what s/he is here to do. That is, may manifest his/her unique gift with dignity.

The ballerina and choreographer who revolutionized modern dance, Martha Graham, an incredible generative being, leaves us in her shining legacy the certainty that:

“There is a vitality, a vital force, an energy, a quickening that is translated through you into action, and because there is only one of you in all of time, this expression is unique. And if you block it, it will never exist through any other medium and it will be lost. The world will not have it.”

Eleven years ago, when I was still a journalist and I had become a mother only a few months before, I was gifted by Life with the huge privilege of meeting Henrique Amoedo. One of the most generative people I have ever met! Henrique, who spent so many years on the stage of high finance in São Paulo, decided to listen to his heart and body, allowed his essence to reveal itself and left from Brazil to Portugal, to the small Madeira Island. He gathered an amazing team, rowed (and still does) over and over in rough seas, transforming the force of the wind and tides in favour of inclusion. For 17 years, this wonderful Man has shown every day that everyone has something to contribute, everyone is valid and brilliant, not for their technique, but for passion, revealing that the body expresses what words cannot tell…

Rita Aleluia with Henrique Amoedo, founder of the Dancing with the Difference group

Henrique is the father of the group Dançando com a Diferença [Dancing with the Difference]. The day I met him, I let myself be touched. Two days later, I took my baby daughter to a rehearsal of that group. I felt in her a different vibration, so beautiful, a kind of amplified love, and I, far, very far from knowing that I was holding in my arms a daughter who eleven years later would have the blessing and joy of being one of the dancers of this inclusive group. I cannot find any word to describe the work they offer us, the incredible way they recognize each being, with no labels… I invite you to see it you’re your eyes and feel with your soul, your body, who they are. If you are in Lisbon, you now have the opportunity?.

The group Dançando com a Diferença, works with prestigious, world-known choreographers, reflecting the pure essence of dance, in all its splendor of unconditional love, selling out all venues where they perform, in Portugal, Brazil, Spain, Switzerland, United States…

Dancing with the Difference Group

The similarities attract us, but differences and diversity make us grow!

By assuming social responsibility, we are opening the channel, being the difference that makes the difference, welcoming, integrating and transcending, turning on the lights, so that the unique expressions that will definitely leverage the world may come into play on the safe of Life!

How do you choose to practice your social responsibility?

THANK YOU, Henrique, Telmo, Natércia and Nuno. I am really thankful to you!

P.S. – You can find the dance company also on their YouTube Channel, in Facebook, on IG.

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Obstacles on the way? Chant the mantra of SFM that was adopted by Conscious Systems https://www.ritaaleluia.com/en/obstacles-on-the-way-chant-mantra-sfm-adopted-conscious-systems/ https://www.ritaaleluia.com/en/obstacles-on-the-way-chant-mantra-sfm-adopted-conscious-systems/#respond Thu, 12 Jul 2018 22:51:26 +0000 http://www.ritaaleluia.com/obstacles-on-the-way-chant-the-mantra-of-sfm-that-was-adopted-by-conscious-systems/ Obstacles are communicating something to you, they have a positive intention, they are communicating a need to you, and this mantra welcomed by Conscious Systems® is an invitation to peace, relaxation, openness and acceptance. Welcome, integrate and transcend.

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Because there are daily obstacles (some days seem to be full of them), because it is not always easy to face them, to activate our resources, Conscious Systems® adopted the mantra of SFM.

It is that mantra that I chant with my eyes closed, my hands placed where I feel discomfort in my body. If you start to notice, it can appear in your gut (enteric brain), or maybe as a tightening in the heart (cardiac brain). The tendency, through traditional education and the day-to-day rush, through fear inflicted on your body, is that you develop an escape strategy, you want to get rid of these unstructured but intense thoughts, feelings, those obstacles. But life is meant to be lived and is always happening for you. Obstacles are communicating something to you, they have a positive intention, very positive indeed. They are communicating a need to you.

In the practice of Conscious Systems®, this mantra is a blessing, a breath of fresh air that invites you to slow down the fast pace, to connect with your true essence, in authenticity and congruence, transforming obstacles into resources.

Rays of light striking man inside a cave.

I invite you to try:

  • It is interesting!
  • I am sure that it makes sense!
  • There is something here that wants to be revealed, wants to be welcomed, healed…
  • Welcome!

Always keep in mind the power of choice! Your freedom to choose, at each moment, as many times as necessary, what you want and what you do not want. To choose consciously, with your three brains aligned with you, with your values, with your beliefs.

When I choose to chant the mantra of Conscious Systems®, I am choosing the serenity that only peace offers me, I am welcoming the certainty that everything is always right, everything is always well.

It helps me a lot to bear in mind the “cry of freedom” of Conscious Systems®:

Welcome, integrate and transcend!

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IAGC and Conscious Systems for a better World, for a generative World https://www.ritaaleluia.com/en/iagc-conscious-systems-for-better-world-for-generative-world/ https://www.ritaaleluia.com/en/iagc-conscious-systems-for-better-world-for-generative-world/#respond Thu, 12 Jul 2018 22:29:55 +0000 http://www.ritaaleluia.com/iagc-and-conscious-systems-for-a-better-world-for-a-generative-world/ IAGC and Conscious Systems believe and work daily so that a better World arises, a generative World, what I call the World of Good. We do it through Generative Coaching, Consulting, Certified Training and Therapy. In particular, I like to make each day of my life a better day, filled with acceptance, inclusion, love and gratitude. I like to see that light reflected in the World.

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It is very common to hear someone saying that he/she wants to see a better World, a Generative World, and that is what IAGC and Conscious Systems believe. We want to move forward, and we are doing it, we want to be an example of that. To walk together, bringing together the gift of every human being, with faith, in a perspective of raising awareness and practicing it daily. Surrounded by authenticity and coherence.

«Where there is fear, that it turns into courage; where there is doubt, let me bring faith.»

At IAGC and Conscious Systems, we know that we are a system, that is we change, transform and create new thoughts and behaviors in a certain context, that will necessarily be reflected in a better World, in a generative World, in a World where everyone counts.

IAGC is the culmination of a whole lifetime of work by Robert Dilts and Stephen Gilligan – in the field of personal development, especially based on NLP and psychology. IAGC is an international organization (of which I am blessed and proud to be a member), spread across the five continents, which supports professionals in the field of Generative Coaching, Consultancy, Therapy and Trance who undertake specific actions to create a better World, a generative World.

But what is a better World, a generative World?

A better World, a generative World is one that creates something new, unheard of, never seen before, with a very clear positive intention. It is what I like to call, and I believe it is, the World of Good!

To this end, it combines creativity with the most meaningful things we want to bring to our lives. This is what we work with Conscious Systems:

  • How to develop an extraordinary relationship with myself?
  • How to build structuring personal and cultural relationships?
  • How to create successful systems (families, companies, organizations)?
  • How to welcome obstacles, by integrating and transcending them?

Arm holding a lamp made with a bottle and several led lights.

And how do we build this Generative, Better World?

IAGC applies the values of Generative Coaching, Consulting, Therapy, Certified Training and Trance to lift lives, communities and organizations to the highest level. Through the conversation between multiple intelligences – verbal and visual, individual and collective, somatic and intellectual, unconscious and conscious – it is possible to build new realities, performances at an unbeatable level, new routes and, consequently, a better World, a generative World.

When I am asked to describe the work of Conscious Systems up to five words… it is simple:

«Transforming dreams into reality».

Now, at Conscious Systems, we have chosen to work through Generative Coaching, Consulting and Training.

In addition to creating and generating a new reality, we develop the practices, based on love, that allow us to keep these states and take them with us wherever we are. Something that I love and practice, in particular, is:

«Make every day of my life a better day, filled with acceptance, inclusion, love and gratitude

I believe that creating a better World, a generative World, the World of Good can be translated into this divine poem of our great poet António Gedeão:

«(…) They don’t know that dreams
are canvas, and color, a brush,
base, column, capital,
lancet arch, stained glass,
cathedral pinnacle,
counterpoint, symphony
a Greek mask, and magic
the alchemist’s retort,
map of the distant world,
a compass, the Infant
sixteenth century caravel,
they’re Cape of Good Will,
gold, cinnamon, ivory,
swordsman’s foil,
theatre wings, dancing step,
Columbine and Harlequin,
the flying passarola,
lightning rod, locomotive,
a ship of festive prow,
blast-furnace, generator,
atom’s fusion, radar,
ultrasound, television,
rocket landing
on the surface of the moon.

They neither know, nor dream,
that dreams command life.
That whenever a man dreams
the world bounces, advances,
as if it were a colored ball
held by the hands of a child.»

The work carried out by IAGC and Conscious Systems allows you to bring this dream into conscience and to make it real.

By the way, how are you living your dreams?

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SRI International, Silicon Valley’s magic stage and the birthplace of Conscious Systems https://www.ritaaleluia.com/en/sri-international-silicon-valleys-birthplace-conscious-systems/ https://www.ritaaleluia.com/en/sri-international-silicon-valleys-birthplace-conscious-systems/#respond Fri, 04 May 2018 10:05:12 +0000 http://www.ritaaleluia.com/sri-international-silicon-valleys-magic-stage-and-the-birthplace-of-conscious-systems/ SRI International is a research institute, one of the most prestigious in the world, located in Silicon Valley and the birthplace of Conscious Systems. Education, biomedical sciences, chemistry, IT systems, economic development, national security and defense, artificial intelligence are some of the many areas highlighted. Find here the difference that makes the difference.

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SRI International is a research institute in Menlo Park, California, right next to Stanford University, in Silicon Valley and it is also the birthplace of Conscious Systems (we’ll get to that). It was created by the founders of Stanford University in 1946, under the name Stanford Research Institute (held until 1977) and it was intended to be an innovation center to support the economic development of the region. It was a success and today it is a kind of Silicon Valley’s magic stage and a world reference.

Silicon Valley is a real inspiration to me. For two years I have visited the region, a few companies, of which I highlight Google, and I am part of a Mastermind group that was born there. I feel that many things, very good things that are changing the world for better emerge there (my loved Conscious Systems is an example). Of course, I visited SRI International. I had the honor and the luck of having the vice-president, Robert Pearlstein, as a host.

SRI International is an independent, non-profit institute that works in the areas of cutting-edge technologies, from their design to getting to the market. I venture to say that everything that guides what is best in the modern world goes through the rigorous sieve of SRI International. SIRI was born here, such as the mouse, the copy and paste, online banking, the medical ultrasound, oncological treatments… As you can imagine, the field is incredible! Curiosity and creativity guiding the day-to-day agenda!

Rita Alelua in a pulpit during a presentation at SRI International in Menlo Park.

In such a special place, Success Factor Modeling is king and teamwork is key to success. SRI International believes that the greatest challenges and social opportunities require the collective work of the most brilliant and pragmatic minds, those who think and act out of the box, thus making the difference.

In Silicon Valley (where I am always so happy), the most entrepreneurial and successful companies know well the power of defining intentions, of focus, of flexibility and the result of working as a team, thus generating healthier lives with more knowledge, prosperity and peace. This is what inspires me so much in that valley and what has so much inspired Conscious Systems (taking the risk of being repetitive).

Education (a topic that is so dear to me), biomedical sciences, materials chemistry, IT systems, economic development, energy technology, environmental learning, national security and defense, as well as sensors and devices, artificial intelligence are some of the many areas highlighted at SRI International.  SRI has already registered more than a thousand patents all over the world.

The eternal feminine at SRI International, Silicon Valley and Conscious Systems

This is a place where women (mostly scientists) have a voice, where I found equal value, authenticity, congruence, responsibility and inclusion. In essence, I found the values of Conscious Systems being practiced at SRI International, it was not by change that it was born there. And that is so good! It Is wonderful to see how an institute with the power that SRI International has, in Silicon Valley, takes further beyond the discussion on issues such as diversity, the challenges that women face in their everyday life, the progress standing out and how it is possible to welcome and attract even more women into this brave world. This is really a place where intentions guide optimist and make it happen.

Screen with projection, during presentation, at SRI International.

Meanwhile, and since here at home we are all science fans and we try to take it to our daughters (even because the youngest one says she is a scientist and astronaut), knowing that this can be a real challenge I share this research that may interest you, inspire you and open new and potential horizons.

At SRI International, in Silicon Valley, the future is now, it is a decision and it is here! I contribute with Conscious Systems and I believe that, in fact, today the world is a place with more future than yesterday.

May the entrepreneur spirit of Silicon Valley be with you!

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